Speak Right to Correct the Wrongs
Speak Right to Correct the Wrongs
Imagine you are sitting in a car that is on auto mode and is driving on a never-ending road, to add to this the car has no breaks. What would happen? Where would the car lead you to, the answer is very simple multiple accidents and it may also be fatal?
We are all riding this car and meeting accidents every day but we all overlook it. The car is your speech, words that you speak. The auto mode is the mind, we talk anything and everything that our mind thinks or says, without thinking its impact on other people. Be it in personal or professional life we criticize people without thinking that it might hurt them, or the words we speak may become unbearable.
Negative talks are not only agitating but also impacts the other person Psychologically – (Speak Right)
For example when we see students, the parent’s blast on the students for not performing, that may lead the student in great depression or they even start getting suicidal thought. Similarly in workplace employers morale down the employee in proving what terrible job they have done or how incompetent they are. If a partner has to break up they say “we are done” we can see the triple talaq for instance. The couple is happily married and one fine day husband says “we are done”.
These negative talks are not only agitating but also impacts the other person psychologically, the outcome will definitely not be pleasant. This often creates a rebellious feeling in people. It creates hatred and distance.
To this Krishna in Bhagavad Gita 17.15 says..
anudvega-karaṁ vākyaṁ, satyaṁ priya-hitaṁ ca yat,
svādhyāyābhyasanaṁ caiva, vāṅ-mayaṁ tapa ucyate
The austerity of speech consists in speaking words that are truthful, pleasing, beneﬁcial, and not agitating to others, and also by self-study.
Krishna here advises to speak words that will not harm others, and also through self-study try to see things from others perspective, Criticizing things are necessary for improvements but we can say the same things in words that do not hurt people. If the words are kind and pleasing they would immediately work on themselves.
Similarly, if the parents want to tell their children to perform better in exams they should use pleasing words that will motivate the child to do better. If employees do not work well you can tell them where they are lacking in a pleasing way. For employers, this way of talking will help them retain employees. This will also make you popular among people. Things will become easy to execute.
The real austerity is speaking words that are truthful, pleasing and beneficial, not words that agitate people. How can you learn these? We can learn only by self-study, by consciously monitoring our words and statements. Introspect first before talking, by placing yourself in the other person’s shoes. Stop all sorts of nonsensical talks such as gossips, backbiting, judgmental talks, etc. It is difficult by this is the right austerity that will give you great benefits and will enhance your public presence.
Quick tips to Speak Right
1. Speak words that are pleasing and beneficial.
2. Introspect first before talking, by placing yourself in other person’s shoes.
3. Stop all sorts nonsensical talks such as gossips, backbiting, judgmental talks, etc
4. negative talks are not only agitating but also impacts the other person psychologically.
Writer: Mehul Vora is a mythologist, culinary anthropologist and occultist. Has been contributing to various websites, newspaper and magazines. He is also a consultant to projects that deal with ancient Indian history and culture.